Vendors Fight Back against customer Abuses

By Paul Pannone

The old adage the customer is always right is not only dead– it’s been buried– according to a growing consensus among business owners who no longer wish to bend over backwards for their customers. Most agree they don’t really know their best customers because they walk in, shop, follow the basic rules, pay and go unnoticed. But everyone knows who the problematic ones are. They’re the ones that can’t deal with sales help, customer service agents, etc, and need to speak to a manager, knowing they’ll get more direct attention and possibly a better deal for squawking.

In preparing for this story  I ran across a good piece done by themana.gr and how they view customers. In their story they answer the question is the customer always right by saying;

“It is a common slogan that “the customer is always right”. That’s just not true. The customer is wrong, a lot. Don’t kid yourself and say otherwise. Customers don’t read instructions, they don’t read Web site service or product descriptions, they follow instructions incorrectly, they break things. They’re often confused. In essence, the customer it NOT always right. But the customer is always the customer.”

 

The mana.gr story deals with general business at large and not necessarily with the wedding business and reported years of abuse by vendors who say they’ve had their fill of bitchy brides. Some suggest they’re getting their pound of flesh and yes, perhaps the pendulum may be swinging a bit too far to the other side, as BitchlessBride eggs on the wedding industry.

 

Judge Bitchless Bride gathers the support of a growing number of vendors who say they’re sick of being abused by brides.

 

Last week the world according to Bitchless Bride told brides tough luck on not getting solicited via email. In no uncertain terms BB tells brides who somehow willingly give up their email they also give up their right to privacy. Unlike some of her other more outlandish posts, taken with a smile and a grain of salt, this rant instantly became a favorite of eWedNewz readers who applauded the post.

Currently 79% of replies to the ongoing poll sided with Bitchless Bride saying if I’ve got the email, the bride is getting contacted. Private and public statements supporting Bitchless Bride say years of cowering down to brides is what led to the current state of affairs. One co-owner of a catering facility in Florida, Catering by Robert, Susan J. Stalnaker, told eWedNewz;

“As a wedding vendor who has spent thousands of dollars per bridal show to make a good impression and “feed the onslaught” of brides, their families, and bridal party members, I think sharing their CORRECT email and phone number is the LEAST they can do for all the loot and free ideas they walked away with.

They can always opt out to receive future contacts. In fact, I don’t think bridal show producers should allow them entrance into the show without a verifiable email address. I know this is radical but so many shows attract even non-brides and “under-cover” wedding vendors that do nothing but clog up the aisle and waste my staff’s valuable time in trying to market to the qualified leads.”

Stalnaker is one of very few wedding vendors– including Bitchless Bride herself; she wears a disguise– to step forward and say what they feel, for fear of reprisal.

Sources in the bridal and men’s formal wear business say they’ve implemented new rules and guidelines for trying on products and then ordering over the internet. Other vendors say they won’t give price quotes for their goods and services over the telephone and/or not before filling out a highly specific questionnaire that qualifies whether the potential customer is worthy of their time and service. Many argue they’ve spent endless (and fruitless) hours assisting brides, only to find out they never planned to purchase products with them.

 

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The Week of June 18th in Review

 

 

By Paul Pannone

For weeks Leonard Green’s decision to put David’s Bridal on the auction block dominated the newZ and captured the attention of readers, making it again this week’s top story. In a few weeks, the story is in the all-time top ten (number nine) and still rising.

The newZ is not good at Brides magazine, as circulation at the struggling Conde’ Nast publication continues to shrink, despite efforts to revive interest in the bridal resource. A current poll so far shows 57% of respondents feel the publication has slipped too deep to recover. 21% say Brides and all printed wedding magazines are slipping because of their format.

 

On the left one dried-up, old prune. On the right a new phenomena called Bitchless Bride. Both deliver the straight message: get over yourself.

 

A new vigilante way of judge, jury and resolution is being watched by this newZ source. Bitchless Bride could be giving that dried up prune, Judge Judy, a run for the money, as a slow but steady wave of support looks on. This week BB blew a three-week investigation I did in 2010 for another format out of the water by simply announcing if she gets the brides email, she is marketing her bridal products to her– deal with it.  So far 78% side with the Bitchless Bride approach to email marketing.

 

 

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Opinions Are Great if they are Open-Minded

By Paul Pannone

Through the years I’ve been amazed at people who impose their opinions on topics where they are not experts. I listen politely (some times) and look at the clock, knowing the time to leave the bloviator is fast approaching. On and on people spout the words  should, can’t, won’t, sending shivers down my spine. But of course we live in a free society where opinions, discussions and ideas spark innovation and a better world.

Tell us what you think and we will tell you why you’re wrong.

 

However,  there is a danger when personal opinions are inflicted on consumers who rely on the ability of the source of information, especially when the opinion is clearly wrong to everyone– except the source of the opinion.

Warnings about self-proclaimed experts tell the real story and what to look for. The mastery of a topic and to call yourself an expert never really happens. The area of ability continues to change, update and evolve leaving everyone short of becoming an expert. The best we can hope for is to be a student of a topic, always learning and refining what we know.

Over the past year we’ve watched self-proclaimed experts get lambasted speaking out of turn, giving false advice and information to people who follow them. They’re allowed to exist because no one calls them out or takes them to task. As long as they don’t venture too far off the real information there’s no upside to fight every idiot that fits the description.

Jim Duhe, as close to an expert on anything weddings as you can get, set the wedding world on its ass when he called out so-called experts.

In Duhe’s rant he tore apart a competitor he felt was doing a disservice to its readers saying,

“Clearly, Brides editors either don’t read their own research or don’t give a crap as to what their readers want to purchase. Like it or not — the price of the average wedding gown is less than $1,000. Like it or not — more than 85% of grooms will rent tuxedos. Brides editors seem much more obsessed with their own projection of wedding day apparel than with serving their readers needs or the interests of the bridal apparel community.”

Other students of their craft support Duhe denouncing the growing number of experts who have a platform on the internet. But the real harm comes from store owners that feel they’ve earned the right to impose their views to unknowing consumers who walk into stores or their office. It’s fact that you can say anything with enough conviction and never be questioned, especially from consumers who are planning weddings for the first time. Most will say they rely on the knowledge of vendors. All will agree they don’t have time, energy or wish to keep shopping and researching because of work and better ways of spending their time. Many take the advice and get what they paid for. But sometimes it doesn’t work so well. If you don;t believe me watch Judge Judy or read the message boards filled with horror stories.

Last week in  my area of knowledge I ran across one of the most stupid display of an expert who actually believes his own bullshit. By his own admission he had the courage to rent a ten-year old garment (I’m being conservative) and admit to it– because a customer was unhappy with a new garment– according to him.

“…it was so bad that the mother paid $75 more to have an old After Six La Strada shipped in! (only reason I did not give her a refund or cover the cost is the fact I advised her against renting the Tony Bowls.)”

True experts reading the story said they couldn’t believe what they read. Most looked at the website and said they’re not surprised, citing how bad it was. But there are others– hundreds– that do the same thing and then wonder why their business is down or failing. Some bring in new styles because of fear and don’t whole-heartedly believe in the product. They never update their website or follow national advertising. They buy a products “in case someone wants it”. The consumer senses the negativity and get pushed into what the vendor likes. In the end the vendor blames everyone else for the failure but himself.

Even in critical subjects that involve a national crisis like wedding piracy, personal opinions and agendas that conflict with a clear, structured and attainable path to a resolution get marred by opinions of others. But, in the end, fact wins over fiction and brilliance over stupidity.

My opinion is to give the consumer the options and factual information and allow them to make their choice. Old outdated products and personal opinions should never be an option. My strong opinion is the culprits will read this and again have their own opinion of why that shouldn’t happen.

What do you think? We’re serious….

 

 

 

 

 

 

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